by Amber-Simone Gayle
‘Falling off is perfectly okay, unless you are on a bridge, then it may not be so wise to do so.’
How many times have you felt like you’ve got it all together? Like every aspect of your life is finally under control and going in the direction you want it to. Like you’re finally on top of everything you need to be?
Then bam, all of a sudden, life hits you.
You’ve forgotten to do one of the many things you needed to do, you’re slacking in some area in your life, you’ve compared your progress to someone else’s and suddenly feel like you’re not doing ‘enough’ – and just like that, you’ve fallen off.
Personally speaking, I am currently juggling part time work, learning to drive, being consistent with my personal blog, applying for internships/placements as well as researching what I plan to do after my final year of uni – working in industry or a graduate scheme – and that’s just to name a few things.
When you’re juggling so many, very different, things, its so easy to say ‘you know what? I can’t be bothered to do this today’’ and that’s okay. It’s easy to let something slip, as long as you don’t allow it to get completely forgotten about. The point is:
- It’s unlikely that you’re going to be on top form 100% of the time, and when you aren’t, don’t beat yourself up about it.
- Allow lazy/rest days, or even days where you only do the things you enjoy doing, yet still have to do. You’re still being productive, but doing something enjoyable – issa win win.
Falling off is actually a good thing, and this is something I learnt recently thanks to a good friend. When you fall off, it allows you to completely evaluate what you should be doing compared to what you are doing. You can then act accordingly, budgeting your time for what you aren’t paying enough attention to, and maybe reducing something you are spending too much time on. Don’t beat yourself up about what you may not have done yet; just make significant changes so that you actually will do them. Pattern yourself, and get back on track.
As for comparing yourself to others, don’t do it.
I know that is a lot easier said than done, but trust me, it’s not worth it. You can never truly know what someone else is going through, yet here we are comparing ourselves to them, wanting to be more like them in a certain way. For all you know, they could have packaged and presented themselves in a way to appear like they have it all together, but when they’re alone, the whole façade crumbles, and really they’re in the same position as you. Aspire to be the best version of yourself, not a copy of someone else. As long as you are consistently improving, and aiming to be better than the person you were yesterday, that’s all that matters.
Don’t feel like everything needs to come together instantly, in all areas of your life, as that will only lead to disappointment. There is no time limit to success, so keep falling off, getting back up and coming back stronger.