The period from September 2015 to June 2019 was the most transformative time of my life.
I still remember my excitement finding out I had been accepted by Sheffield univeristy to study Journalism Studies. I was elated. And now, four years later, I feel the same mix of excitement and anticipation for my next life move.
I wrote this post after first finding out I had got my A-Level grades, got accepted into univeristy and gotten a scholarship from the Royal Television Society. Reading back my child-like glee makes me giggle at my naivety of what I thought university would be like.
The studying aspects of university were great: I enjoyed what I did and definitely left with a rounded understanding of the UK Media industry. My course helped kindle and develop my love of exploring people and their stories and presenting their stories through different modes of media.
The other aspects of university – independence, friendships, relationships, money, health – were sometimes less great.
Over the four years, I learnt more of who I am as a person, what I like and dislike, what matters and does not matter to me. Over the four years, I made lifelong friends, brothers and sisters. But I also had horror stories after trusting people to reciprocate the same love I showed them.
I’m not even upset at these situations because these people have provided me with opportunities to exercise unconditional love, like Jesus does. I learnt that while I always try to be genuine, loving and caring in my friendships and relationships, I sometimes allow myself to believe that my words and actions confirm the other person will act the same way back to me.
I have finally learnt: I am not responsible for anyone’s actions. I am not responsible for anyone’s response to my love. That’s their responsibly. Not mine.
University meant becoming financially independent from my parents. I worked (part-time and then full-time, and then part-time again) for the last three years of my degree. I had periods of having more than I needed financially and periods of lack. University definitely taught me to be smart with my money, time and resources. And I am so glad I chose to work during my time studying because it has prepared me for life.
I am very grateful and very blessed to have a job and apartment sorted even before I had finished my degree.
Nothing is a coincidence and I am learning every day that I am right where I am supposed to be.
Adult life absolutely terrifies me. But it also excites me. I have been okay until now and I believe that I am ready to take over the world. God has not left me stranded to figure stuff out by myself and He’s not about to start now!