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You’ve probably heard that words are powerful so be careful what you say.

I’m here to tell you, you are, or rather you become, who you tell yourself you are.

As a Woman of Faith, it is so vital that I speak positive things over and into my life. I say, out loud or in my heart, my goals and dreams, because this is the first step towards taking the actions to reach them.

I remember the first time I said out loud I want to be an Online Content Creator – not just as a hobby, as a full-time job! – I laughed! I thought it sounded silly and childish to think I could actually get paid enough to live on doing what I have been doing for the last five years.

I laughed every single time I said it out loud to someone, or even just to myself and God, for a very long time. But eventually I stopped laughing and started actually believing it could happen.

This is why what you say about yourself is so powerful and so important.

In the same way positive words work, negative words can carry a lot of weight. Especially when those words are coming from yourself, about yourself. You feel like they must be true because you can’t really lie to yourself, can you?

I’m here to tell you, you are, or rather you become, who you tell yourself you are. Even if you were that negative person before, you don’t need to continue to remind yourself of that and you don’t need to allow yourself to believe that that is all you’ll ever be.

Proverbs 18:21, in the Bible, says “The tongue [mouth/words/language] has the power of life and death [positivity/growth or negativity/stagnation].” (Brackets added)

And Deuteronomy 30:19 (Also in the Bible. The Bible is lit.) says “…I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life…”

I don’t know about you guys, but I choose life. Always.

I choose to speak words and think thoughts that build me up.

One practical way you can get into a habit of choosing life and speaking positivity over yourself is Words to Live By. I got this from this amazing sermon by one of my favourite Pastors and speakers, Pastor Craig Groeschel, of Life Church. I recommend anyone dealing with low self-esteem and negative toughts to give this a watch:

Words to Live By: step-by-step

  • Write a list of positive statements that relate to you specifically. Any areas of improvement you have in your life? You need to be honest with yourself!
  • Find scriptures (or if you are not a person of faith, find motivational quotes) relating very specifically to every statement and write them next to each statement.
  • Every morning (or every night if your mornings are half as crazy as mine!!) say these statements, either out loud or in your heart. And use them as daily prayer points to pray to God.
  • If you are likely to forget, set an alarm named Words to Live By to remind you to say them
  • Write them on post-it notes and put them in places you will see them throughout the day to remind you.
  • As you go through your day, make conscious actions towards fulfilling your Words to Live By.

I thought I’d share a few of mine, just to give you some ideas. Feel free to pinch/adapt them.

I am strong through Christ who gives me strength – 2 Corinthians 12:9

Self discipline is my middle name and hard work does not scare me – 2 Timothy 1:7

God would not allow anything that is stronger than me to try me so I find joy and peace in trials – James 1:2

I shall not be anxious or worry about anything – Psalms 94:19, Philippians 4:6, 1 Peter 5:7


Paula Melissa xx

Paula Melissa is a digital content creator, portrait photographer and freelance journalist. Since starting a blog in 2012 and graduating from the University of Sheffield with a Journalism Studies with Employment Experience degree in 2019, Paula has gone on to create and grow her own dynamic digital media empire. She loves reading, eating and spending time with her dog, Rolfie.
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